If we couldn’t hide behind our phones, I would make an effort to say hello.
Surprised you’d look up, and if I was lucky, then ask for my name.
We could start talking and complain about the rain,
awkwardly laugh and asking about each other’s day.
Realizing that we’re different and yet the same.
I would compliment your shoes that you just bought
and you my earrings that I felt self-conscious about.
We would grin at each other, happily,
feeling the momentarily satisfaction of meeting a good person,
of having a fine encounter on this mundane day.
Then our ways would part and never find back together,
and that’s okay.
Because you, and hopefully so would I, have brightened up our day.
And some might think it’s no big deal,
but it bothers me, that this was fiction and not real.
A little bit something different today, guys. It’s something I’ve been thinking about quite a lot lately and I’ve written this a few weeks back. I don’t mean to do the usual smartphone bashing, telling everyone how technology ruins relationships and our lives. That is not true. In fact, I am really thankful for the advanced technology. My phone allows me to keep in good contact with my family and friends back home, thousands of kilometers away.
But from time to time, I wonder whether our phones have become a sort of hideaway place. In a room full of strangers, no one has to talk to each other anymore, because no one hears the silence. There is no silence anymore. All you gotta do is turn on your phone and scroll through the million of pictures, videos and the overflowing content there is on the internet to feel satisfied again.
And I do think that sometimes, it is absurd.
How is it that I sat with five actually lovely girls at table for lunch and absolutely no conversation was happening? Instead of getting to know them, all I found out was what Instagram caption they would use for their new photo. Five girls, all of them eating their lunch, staring down at their phone not even realizing that this should be a social time. I am not exaggerating. This is exactly how it happened and I felt so estranged by it. Especially with being an exchange student and still trying to make friends at that point, I felt like cellphones were making it somewhat more difficult to really meet people. It wasn’t always like that of course, but a few situations like the one described opened my eyes a little bit.
Since then I sometimes wonder whether we realize anymore whether our exposure with phones has become absurd instead of useful. Whether we lose our ability to meet a stranger, because we feel like it’s easier to play a game on our phone instead of making the effort to say hi. Whether we feel safer to stare at a blank screen than ackowledging the human being next to us.
Because if it does, I think there is something utterly wrong about that, something that I would need to change.
I am not here to judge, not here to teach or tell anyone what to do. These are just my thoughts, and sharing thoughts is simply what I do here, right? It’s what you guys do too, so please let me know what your opinion is on this post, it’s really a topic that I would love to chat with you about.
I’m out and about,
Photography: “Technological Haze” Instagram